I’m not afraid of hard work. I raised two kids and held down a demanding career in corporate communications pretty much single-handed, until I married in my late forties and finally realised what day-to-day support felt like.
I nursed my mother when she moved in with us and still carried on working and sorting out the children. I carried on when my son was diagnosed with Autistic Spectrum Condition and ADHD. When he was excluded several times, at great emotional cost to the whole family, when my daughter dropped out of Uni… when my grandfather died and y mother a few short months afterwards.
I carried on when I left my corporate career to set up the #happyinschool project to support other parents. I wrote a book, partly as therapy, when evolved in a best-selling self-help book for parents navigating a similar path with their neurodiverse child’s education. Then the penny dropped. I’m good at things, even though I make mistakes, I didn’t need to beat myself up! I didn’t need to be ashamed of anything – I used to feel huge shame and pressure as a single working mother.
I’m grateful for all of the learning experiences I’ve had and the incredible friendships I’ve made along the way. They are what make me a good listener, colleague and friend. I’m a good human being – most of the time 🙂 None of this is self-aggrandising, it’s about being reflective and honest with myself. Something else I’ve learned to do in the last few years. Doing the work is an ongoing project – especially the self-healing, so vital if you aspire to help others.
Self-examination is a key component of any mental health journey – whether you are at the start, in the middle, recovering or most importantly, maintaining your mental well-being, is self-compassion. And it feels good.
If you’d like me to work with your family around issues of acceptance, education, navigating a school system that doesn’t ‘get’ you and much more, please use the contact form below to get in touch. Take care of you.
© Suzy Rowland